What does it mean when you dream about your ex?
Dreaming about an ex is rarely about wanting them back. Most often the ex stands for how you felt back then, a feeling that something in your life now is bringing up again. Dreams about different exes that bring the same feeling may point to a pattern in who you fall for.
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Waking up after a dream about an ex can be confusing, especially if you're happy with someone else. These dreams are rarely about wanting that person back. What you felt with them then, and where that feeling turns up now, usually matter more.
What dreaming about your ex may mean
AAn old feeling, playing out again now
The ex may be a picture of how you felt back then, not a wish to get back together. Something in a relationship today may feel the way things felt with them, and the dream reaches for the clearest example it has.
Something in a current relationship feels the way it did with them
BA pattern in who you fall for
If different exes keep bringing the same feeling, the dream may be pointing at a pattern: being drawn to someone strong, say, or someone closed off. Patterns like this usually started somewhere long before.
Different exes, the same feeling
CLetting go, or fearing being left
An ex who fades or dissolves may stand for old guilt you're finally letting go of. It can also mean the opposite: a fear of being left that's stirring again.
The ex fades away or dissolves into smoke
These are possibilities, not verdicts. The reading that fits is the one that matches the details and the feeling of your dream, and what's going on in your life.
Questions that tell the readings apart
- Q1How did you feel with them back then? Where does that feeling show up now?The dream often uses an ex to show a feeling that's happening again in the present.
- Q2Was it one ex, or have different exes come back with the same feeling?The same feeling with different people points to a pattern, not to one person.
- Q3What happened to them by the end of the dream?An ex who fades away changes the reading.
Read your own dream about your ex
- Reading your dream
- Picking out the images and feelings
- Looking up what the images can mean
- Working out how the pieces fit together
- Writing your reading
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